Ive asked some of the guys my age who have contacted me as an “exception” about their success with their age range search.
It is often 10-20 years younger than them and these are very “average” appearing guys .
It’s difficult to meet large numbers of men that way, but I’m starting to feel like my chance of making a non age-biased connection with a guy is only out in the real world.
And the real-world opportunities can be few and far between. I can’t disagree with anything you’ve observed about online dating and age. So here are the facts: Older men have more options than older women (online and in real life) because they can usually date somewhat younger.
It’s the built-in folly of online sites: you are only defined by your age, in bold type right next to your user name.
I am a youthful, fit and free-spirited woman and to be honest, I’m not ready for the retired 65-70 year old guys.
I’m not ashamed of my age and hiding it seems phony.
When I meet men in person in my daily life, I get a better response because they see the whole me, hear my voice, get a sense of what I’m like, all before they know how old I am, meaning I can be defined by other qualities.
If their first wife was their age, like a college sweetheart or whatever, they probably feel entitled to a newer model, so to speak. It’s frustrating, not to mention depressing and more than a little humiliating.
Worse, they’re hypocritical about it, because they don’t understand why the vast majority of younger women won’t go for them.
And yet, the fastest growing segment for online dating is the 50 market. More people have computers and are aware of someone who found love online.
Most people who say they’ve taken my advice have only taken a few pieces of my advice.
Which is like saying you’re going on a diet by cutting out sugar, but continuing to eat large portions of fried foods.
I’m guessing they check out my profile, see my age, and probably read no further.